First I owe you a zillion apologies for just responding to your question. I have had issues with viewing questions but even that does not excuse the fact that your question was left unanswered.
I would also like to thank you for trusting me with something very personal.
I must say that your fears are valid. It is somewhat natural to feel unsure when going into a lifelong commitment that marriage entails. Having said that, I’d appeal to you to create time for both of you to talk about any and everything – no holds barred. It is important to let him understand the way you feel about this occurrence among other things. It is not out of place for him to respond in a manner that you would term unaffectionate because not everyone enjoys the public display of affection. Your line of questioning should be to seek understanding and not to fault his stance. He may have had a myriad of past experiences (his own and in the life of others) that have informed his beliefs over the years so you’ll need to apply tact when communicating your hurt. Our actions almost always stem from a deep sea of a combination of our thoughts, associated feelings and experiences.
Whatever you both do, please ensure that you are sincere one with another. You may need to visit a professional marriage coach to help you better navigate and resolve knotty issues in your relationship.
I wish you both the very best.
Thank you again for your question. Here’s a toast to you.
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