Has the concept of self-love been misconstrued or has it become an over flogged theory?
I believe that self-love is a great and empowering philosophy and should be embraced. It means loving yourself enough to be aware of whom you are at the core; to be able to understand how your internal and external communications influence your many thoughts, emotions, sentiments and actions. It is a positive feeling that fills you with great energy. It is about having a very healthy self-esteem, being confident and respecting you without needing validation from others.
The concept of self-love however does not exist in a vacuum where nothing else matters. It is expected to work in tandem with and in relationship to other philosophies. Self-love is nothing without having an awareness of one’s self, embracing a culture of being self-disciplined and being self-reflective.
Here’s a ‘twist’ to this concept. If you do not have capacity to love another human being, chances are that you suck at truly loving yourself too. Indulging in anything just because you can does not equal self-love. Being egocentric, self-obsessed and self-absorbed does not equal self-love. Being nasty to others simply because you can or escalating things just to prove a point have no basis in self-love. Self-love is not conceited. Having a dire need to bring others down in order to fuel your own feeling of worth is a poor substitute for the real thing.
True self-love drives you to becoming your best which ultimately leads to self-actualization, positive growth, a sense of fulfillment and inner peace.
So let’s do self-love right, shall we? 🙂
I’d like to know what your thoughts are about self-love; please do share. Thank you.