Hi Bolu. I have a relationship based question. Sorry, it's quite a long one. I am dating a guy right now who I really love, but I'm not sure if he loves or even likes me just as much. When we go out, he doesn't like to hold hands. On one occasion, I intentionally held on tight to his hand, but he just shook my hand off. I was quite upset and embarrassed at the same time, but I summoned-up courage to ask him why he acted that way. His reply was that he just wants his hands to be free and that he had the right to want that. He also got upset at the fact that I was upset, and said being angry with him was a sign of selfishness on my part, because I just wanted to have my way. I took it in good faith because I truly felt it would be unfair for me to make him do what he did not feel like doing, so going forward, I no longer made attempts to hold his hands, and ever since he has never bothered to hold mine either. It seems like something really little, but it bothers me till this day especially when we go out and I see other people lovingly holding hands in public… even old couples! I wonder if he’s ashamed of me or if it’s just his personality. I tried to show him how I feel, but he remains unmoved by my emotions about it. In other respects he’s okay, but this really bugs me! I kind of feel maybe he doesn’t really love me. Is his reaction towards me normal? Our wedding is in 4 months and I have known him for 4 years. Do you think I should go on with the relationship? Any advice will do. I don’t mind getting the public’s opinion on the matter either. Please post anonymously. Thank you.
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