A distant cousin of mine paid me a visit. She gushed about how she was in love with this young man whom she hoped to marry. I listened and smiled sheepishly as she spoke. (Don’t you just love fairy tales? I do!). She had concerns though and had sort out a couple of ways to ‘verify the relationship’. She had visited a number of prophets and religious leaders, seeking clarity as to the ‘compatibility’ of her intended partner. She was literally seeking assurance and validation for her choice.
Perturbed by this, I asked if she had inquired on her own. “I mean, just ask God yourself”, I said. With all due respect, why would you take some other person’s word for it, especially when you could just ask yourself? “There is safety in counsel”, she retorted. I sure was not expecting that response from her. In any case, I thought to myself very quickly and said to her: “the more reason why you should take my counsel seriously”. Sensing her uneasiness, we quickly moved past that subject unto other things. After a few hours, she said good bye and as she left for her home, I beseeched her to take full responsibility for her decision on whom to spend the rest of her life with. I hope she does. Although she didn’t seem too excited at my stance, I will intercede on her behalf and ask that she’ll come to hear and discern God’s voice all by herself. We won’t want her running here and there each time she has an important decision to make, would we?